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So, the method thus far has been fairly simple. First, a guy asks a girl on a date. At the end of the first date he asks for a second. If interested, the guy continues to ask and take the girl on dates until around date number seven. On that date he has a DTR with the girl and they discuss the ‘next level’ of their relationship. The guy, then, repeats that process every 7 dates or 2-3 months for as long as the couple needs to until they are ready for engagement. Prior to engagement, though, I recommend that the final ‘level’ of dating should be courtship. Read the rest of this entry »

Relationships change quickly over time. Overcoming the hurdles of changing circumstances (especially over the long-term) is largely dependent on how well the couple is able to communicate with each other. For a relationship to continue to grow into something more than just a collection of dates, there must be more than one occasion when the man initiates a DTR. In fact, they should be regular occurrences over the life of the relationship. Read the rest of this entry »

What is the purpose of dating?

Surely a blook on the topic of dating would have addressed this most fundamental  question prior to the third chapter, right?


The reason? Because everyone already knows the answer. If there is anything that men and women who are in dating relationships everywhere agree upon it is the answer to this one question. Religious preference makes no difference. Neither does one’s previous dating experience (or lack thereof). Both genders would even agree on the answer to this question! Everyone’s answer is still the same: Read the rest of this entry »

Chapter 3.1 outlined some principles that could govern a dating relationship over its first several dates. At that point all the definition the relationship needs is simply the date itself. Over those first six to eight weeks the man and the woman are simply dating one another. However, shortly around that time, both the man and the woman reach a crossroads: how much longer are we going to do this? What kind of relationship is this becoming? Are we just having fun or is this for real? Whenever the dating couple reaches this point, it is time to define the relationship (DTR). Read the rest of this entry »

The focus of chapter two was the proper initiation of a first date. Assuming the first date goes well enough to merit a second one, where should the relationship go from there? The focus of chapter three will be on developing, maintaining and defining a healthy relationship that, hopefully, matures into something more.

Once a second date is agreed to, there are five basic principles that should govern the first phase of the dating relationship (the first 5-6 dates or so) in order for it to grow in a healthy direction and at a healthy pace. Read the rest of this entry »

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