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In chapter 2.6 we looked at what both men and women should do prior to the date. In this post we’ll cover the actual date itself.

Picking Her Up:

Men should always pick up women to take them out on a date. The only exception to this rule is when the woman and the man are strangers and she is not comfortable giving the man her address. Otherwise, it is incumbent upon the man to drive to wherever the woman is and pick her up for the date (yes, even if you have to drive across town to pick her up and then back into town for the date and then back out of town to drop her off). Why? Because the method communicates the message, guys. Same as always: “You are worth it.Read the rest of this entry »

The first date in any relationship is generally the most awkward. If a relationship can survive past the first or second date, it has far better chances of surviving a longer term. That being said, it is important for both the man and the woman to have the right perspective of how the first date can and should operate in the course of their relationship. Even though there are countless possibilities for what a first date might look like between strangers, two that are mildly acquainted, and even a couple that has known each other for a long time, there are some basic principles and practices that should characterize every first date.  Read the rest of this entry »

Chapter 2.4 was largely from the man’s perspective since he is the one responsible for initiating the relationship. His primary responsibility is to make his intentions clear while communicating his feelings in a respectful and encouraging way. By knocking on the front door, the man is communicating to the woman, “you are worth it!”

As important as it is to a woman for a man to get the ask right, it is equally important for the woman to get the response right – even if she isn’t interested in dating the man. Regardless of whether or not she is interested, the method of the woman must communicate to the man: “I’m flattered and appreciate you asking.” As much as women like and appreciate a front-door approach from men (even from men they are not interested in) they should make sure that their response encourages them to try the same method again with the next woman they ask on a date. So, what should this look like? Read the rest of this entry »

We have spent quite a lot of time discussing the wrong approach to dating. And while there will always be plenty of mistakes to go around, we should not feel defined by our failures. If you’ve been a back-door-boy in the past, here’s  your chance to try the front door instead. If you have been settling for back-door-boys as a woman, here is what you’ve been missing out on.

Remember, the method determines the message. If all of the fearful, lazy and ignorant ways of boys are indicative of someone who uses the back door, then it makes sense for the opposite to be true of the front-door-man: he would be bold, diligent, and aware. Read the rest of this entry »

As discussed in chapter 2.2, the biggest mistake boys make when it comes to dating is to sneak into the relationship because they are afraid of rejection, too lazy to pursue a woman the proper way, or are just plain ignorant of how to do it at all. These guys are called ‘back-door-boys’ because instead of asking permission to enter the house, these boys sneak around back, walk through the open door, and make themselves right at home.

And what about the woman’s role in all of this? How does she respond when she walks into her living room to discover a back-door-boy has let himself into her home? Call the cops? Scream for help? Kick him in the groin and roll him out the front door?

No. She makes him feel right at home too. Read the rest of this entry »

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